moon tee c/o lune vintage, thrift and diy shorts, jeffrey campbell boots, kimono from my sister, thrifted bag, thrifted belt
I'm experiencing writer's block and I don't really feel like vomiting insignificant words into this post. Instead I would love for all you ladies to answer a few questions. I appreciate any and all feedback!
If asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray?
Do you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex?
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people?
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style?
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right?
Otherwise, ask me anything on my Formspring. I'm bad about responding to blog questions on this thing, mostly because I assume my answers won't be seen by the person inquiring.
As cliche as it sounds, I dress the way that I do simply to express myself. In all honesty, it's almost a "f*ck you" to what society tells me a 'proper girl' should look like. I like wearing boys clothes, but I also like wearing 5 inch heels. I want to portray walking expression, whatever I may be trying to express at that moment or on that day. I do not dress to attract the opposite sex whatsoever. I get comments from those around me all the time, people don't understand why I'd want to dress in baggy, shapeless clothes when I have such a 'petite figure'. I dress to impress women more so than I do to impress men, only because I feel that other females can relate to what I wear and the image that I portray more than males can (but of course, there are always exceptions). Dressing in similar fashion CAN derive new friendships, however, I don't think that they dictate them. A very small number of my friends dress like me or even have much of an interest in fashion at all. ONE of the reasons that I look up to certain women is due to the way they dress, but it is by no means the only, or even one of the top reasons. I do think that I form opinions about other women based on their styles, and I think I do this primarily because the way that I dress exemplifies the person that I want to be and feel that I am - therefore, I feel that others are expressing themselves in the same way (although I acknowledge that this is not always the case).
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ReplyDeleteIf asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray?
ME: I dress how I do because I like coming up with crazy combinations, I feel pretty awful if I don't like what I am wearing.. which is kind of annoying but you know what, whatever. To me it is kind of like a piece of art and I want it to be right, right to me though, not to anyone else.
Do you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite/***SAME**** sex?
ME: ehhhm no not really. I feel like if I was trying to do that I would just dress a lot more boring because I feel like sometimes my clothing would scare possible significant others away to be honest.
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
ME: I feel like I need to answer this is 2 parts. The way I dress is not necessarily what society says I should wear, as a tall, curvy girl, I choose clothes rather than styles that fit my body "right". whatever.
second part: I guess I wouldn't say I dress to impress women exactly, I guess that I dress first and foremost to make myself feel good, but I love inspiring/impressing anyone who appreciates fashion, or who doesn't, you know.. if someone digs what I got on that's cool. I also think it is kind of funny how much you can scare/offend people by wearing/werkin' (what I would deem) non-offensive clothing/style. lol
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people?
ME: I think so, yeah. Especially via the internetzzz. I mean.. You are my friend and I found you because of the way you dress. (but sadly NOT everyone who dresses in what I think is "a cool way" is actually awesome)
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style?
ME: ok, yeah to the first part. I do, but like I said before it is a big FRIEND TURN OFF if you are a jerk. I don't like to see people who are mean wearing cool clothes, they ruin everything! haha. It's sad but yes I do form opinions about other people based on their style.. I mean not necessarily negative things, I try to not be so negative.. but like I will definitely see if we have similar taste, and if we do I will probably think we might have something in common, I mean if you dress weird you are probably pretty cool. I hope.
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right?
ME: yes.
If asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray?
ReplyDeleteTo make myself more prepared for the day -- I wake up at 6 and I hate it. Dressing up makes me more excited for the day, and also because I'm at school. I don't want to dress sloppily because I don't think you're respecting your teachers or yourself by dressing in a lackadaisical fashion, I've seen that the way you dress at school often reflects their drive to learn. And if I have to dress nicely for work in 10 years, why not start now?
Do you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex?
Nope, I don't focus on that at all -- friends are more valuable than relationships.
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
Not really, because in the end I only really dress to make myself feel more ready for the day, not to impress anyone... unless it's for a job interview or something of that nature.
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people?
Friendships can start from the smallest things, and I believe similar fashion styles (or even contrasting styles) can make a friendship bloom. It's happened to me! I loved what a girl sitting next to me was wearing and we hit it off.
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style?
Not always, because I believe in looking at their personality and successes/drive etc, but I really admire women who dress differently from the mainstream and are not afraid, very confident in their own skin, because I wish I was like that.
I'm a person who judges a person based on their cleanliness and attitude in their situation, so that's the only time I'd judge -- like, I hate seeing girls (and guys) at my school wearing pajamas. I think it's horribly disrespectful of them to just show up like that, because I feel as if they aren't putting effort into school.
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right?
YES.
First off, this outfit is perfection, every single detail is just amazing.
ReplyDeleteI can't deny, I do dress to impress. I like to add an edge to any outfit, that's always been my thing. Either an edgy or a rocker twist. Just the simplest details can change the entire feel of an outfit. That being said, I'm very particular about the jewelry and accessories I wear, to add the edge or whatever feel I want to expand on in any given outfit.
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im so in love with this outfit! and that is probably the only reason why i am answering these questions now haha
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If asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray?
I want people to stare at me, even if its "wtf is she wearing" looks, i like to stand out, and i do so in fashion. i dont want to just fit in, and look like everyone else.
Do you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex?
i dont plan on it, but i like to think guys who id be into would be into a girl who dresses well. haha like they care right?
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
i honestly do try to impress women instead. i want girls to see me and be like, "woah, i wish i could pull off wearing something like that". i also love evil bitch looks from other women (:
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people?
none of my friends dress just like me. my best friend dresses kinda similar, but most of my friends dont. but i do wish certain people i see on the street would be my friends because they dress cute.
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style?
i dont really look up to people.... but i do judge people on how they dress. im actually really negative towards people based on their style, which is something im trying to change. for example, the other day i saw a girl on the bus wearing hellbounds, and i instantly disliked her but wanted to be her friend. its probably jealousy. i also think when people are wearing outfits i think dont go well together, or that i just plain dislike i judge them. consider them sloppy. but i can see when someone puts an effort in their outfits, even if its a style i dont like, and can be accepting.
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right?
yes. but mostly i like to show off how i shop. that i work in retail and earn minimum wage but can still dress cute. i thrive for sales, so i like to show off the new shoes i got for only $30 instead of $150. i want people to see that you can find things from forever21 and mix it with one designer piece and make an awesome outfit.
i hope my answers make sense, i just got off an 8 hour shift and am about to pass out. ><
That is one cool outfit.
ReplyDeleteAnd may I say fits you perfectly. Really Nice!
I love your kimono, it takes this whole outfit up a level. So sick.
ReplyDeleteIf asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray? I dress to show who I am, many people guess I'm a 1970s loving, Vegetarian, free-spirited fitness fanatic with a passion for India (or at least one of those things) before they speak to me.
ReplyDeleteDo you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex? I've been with the same bloke for 20 years, I wouldn't change him for the world so no, I couldn't give a toss if a man finds the way I dress sexy.
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people? Yes. Many people in my home town don't really get me but by blogging and meeting like-minded women who love vintage clothes but don't take themselves or their garments seriously I've finally found my tribe.
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style? I don't look up to women because of their dress. I'm intrigued by well presented, stylish women but if they ain't got it going on in their heads then I'm not impressed.
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right? Of course, there's little that pleases me more than a comment or an email from a woman whose been inspired to dress a little differently because they've read my blog.
Hope that makes sense and I haven't rambled too much.
I adore you and your style.Have a top weekend. x
I actually have been thinking about why I dress the way I do lately. I wrote a blog post about it, but I'll try to sum it up. I dress to portray some sort of emotion or feeling, nothing more. It's a very vague reasoning, so I don't expect anyone to really "get" it.
ReplyDeleteI do not dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex. I don't think my clothing choices generally appeal to men.
I don't dress to impress women specifically, either. I'm actually very surprised when I am complimented on my outfit in daily life. I dress to please myself first, but I also would like it if people (generally women) who's style I enjoy and respect like my style too.
I do believe that dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships, and I love that. Unfortunately, very few people in my city dress even remotely like I do.
I'd have to know a little more about a woman than her style to look up to her. For instance, if she had a blog that I enjoyed reading AND dressed awesome, I would look up to her. I can't tell just by clothing choices if a person is worthy of my respect.
And yes, you are right. I have the tenancy to be a bit narcissistic that way, actually. I think a bit of narcissism is fine, healthy even. But I still try not to let it get out of hand.
I love your top and its inspired me to do a spot of DIY :) anyway, your questions:
ReplyDeleteIf asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray?
I want to display my individuality and perhaps even my courage to wear something that isn't 'mainstream' or 'ordinary'. I've built up a reputation in my school for dressing 'odd' and I like it. I'm proud to have that label because I don't want to be like everyone else. But that's not to say I dress 'odd' in order to receive a surprised reaction, I began dressing the way I do because I wanted to experiment and I like it.
Do you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex?
Sometimes, I think it depends on the occasion. When I was single I made an effort to wear clothes that showed off my waist and my hourglass figure. But now I'm in a relationship I wouldn't want other men looking at me in a sexual way, though that thought doesn't stop me dressing sexy if I so wish.
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
Again it depends on situation, but I definitely do dress to 'compete' with other women. If I'm at a party I want to be seen as one of the attractive ones by both the men and the women, to say I didn't care would be a lie. I suppose it's all to do with evolution and how we want to stamp out the competition, haha.
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people?
Someones appearance is the first thing you notice and you judge them immediately. Me and my friends dress quite differently but we've been friends for years and so our styles have developed and changed. However I am certain that when I go to university next year I'll make friends with people who dress 'odd' like me and that perhaps don't have a lot of money and hence shop in charity shops and make their own clothes.
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style?
Yes, I follow loads of blogs for inspiration and love to see how people put outfits together. I would be lying if I said I didn't judge other women based on how they looked, which is wrong I know! Though, I wouldn't ever discount being friends with them or talking to them because they might turn out really nice. Fashion isn't the only thing that matters.
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right?
Yes definitely, I want people to come to my blog and be inspired to do something different. My blog is still in very early stages but I hope to develop it and make it into somewhere people can admire what I wear but to be able to feel like they can dress like that too.
Thanks for posting these questions. Its nice to actually think about how fashion affects you :)
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If asked why you dress the way you do, what is your answer? Not just "because I like it", please. What are you wanting to portray?
ReplyDeleteI have had the same attitudes towards fashion since I was a very little girl. I don't have a concrete reason for dressing how I dress-- for me it is something I feel inside of me that I must act on. It's very intrinsic. I have an interest in fashion because I have to. I don't feel right on the inside if I'm not expressing myself with fashion. Plus, it's fun.
Do you dress in hopes of attracting the opposite sex?
Never. In fact, I hate attention from men. It makes me very uncomfortable.
If the way you choose to dress doesn't "flatter your body type" in a way the mainstream opposite sex would deem attractive, would you say you dress to impress women instead? If so, why?
I never dress to impress anyone. I don't care what other people think about my style. It's always amazing and appreciated to get compliments, but it never plays any role in WHY I wear what I wear.
Do you believe dressing in similar fashion can derive new friendships amongst similar people?
I think people who have similar interests of any kind can build friendships out of those similarities, but I'm more likely to forge a friendship with someone who is interested in style in general than because their style is similar to my own.
Do you look up to other women because of how they dress? Do you form opinions about other females based on their style?
I would say yes to both. I gain inspiration from other women's style that I like.
If you are a fellow fashion blogger I would imagine that you'd be lying if you say you don't dress to impress. You want people to see what you are wearing. You are proud of it, otherwise you would not be excited to post pictures. You want to be a source of inspiration and be inspired. Am I right?
For me this is not true at all. I would blog exactly how I do whether anyone else ever read it or not. I blog because I like to, and it is largely something I do for myself. It's never for an audience. It is very cool to meet people through blogging and to have interactions with people all over the world, and it's great to get positive feedback about what I do, but this is not why I do it. I do it because I love fashion, I love getting dressed, I love taking pictures of myself, and I love creating a blog.
1. I dress for confidence and feel good-ery. Sometimes this has to do with what I'm working on on any given day, for instance, glass blowing and welding will require different outfits than a day i'm just working on a computer. I am significantly more productive when I'm really stoked on the way I've adorned myself.
ReplyDelete2. I don't get dressed with the plans of attracting men, but I definitely like to feel sexy. This being said, my definition of sexy is pretty different than the T & A that many men would want to see.
3. Regardless of body flattery, I definitely dress to impress women. When I am complimented by a woman, I take it to heart much more than were I to receive a similar compliment from a man. Perhaps this is due to the fact that sometimes an outfit compliment from a man seems like it may just be a precursor to some lame pick up line.
4. I think having a similar style can bring people together, but its only the start. In order for a real friendship to start, both people need to actually LIKE each other, and be interested in each other's ideas. Fashion can start the conversation, but it has to be continued by a somewhat deeper connection, such as world views.
5. I believe that it is impossible to encounter something without forming an opinion on it, even subconsciously, so yes, i totally form opinions based on style. These can range from: 'she looks awesome/interesting' to something like "not down with those shoes." I don't think making negative comments about one's style is at all productive, so when I see something I disagree with, I just keep it to myself, since style is a highly personal matter.
6. yes, i do dress to impress others. and myself, actually. I just started this fashion blogging business, but its been a really interesting way to document style.
Wonderful questions! Thanks for starting the conversation.
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Amazing necklace ;o
ReplyDelete1. I feel like people play things too safely, especially when it comes to clothing. People walk into commercial chain stores (Wal-Mart, Target) and are spoon-fed styles of clothing. Screen tees, jeans, spaghetti strap tanks, really boring, safe shit. When I was younger I was hanging with my mom in the makeup section of our local drug store and saw a display for L'Oreal HiP, a collection of eyeshadow duos. The models wore bright neon colours or metallic hues, with something like electric blue for her ENTIRE upper lid, and acid green below her lid. Her makeup was fucking insane, and I loved it. Then I looked at everyone in the drug store and realised, no one wears their makeup like that. Why not? It looked awesome, and it was being marketed to people who shop at Walgreens for makeup. I almost felt left out. Was I not allowed to look that awesome? I eventually learned to step out of my element, first with clothes and makeup later, ironically enough. I feel so much more alive this way. It's like that first gasp after holding your breath for a long time.
ReplyDelete2. Not really, since I'm a 99% lesbian. -rimshot- Nah, I in fact have a huge pet-peeve with people who try to argue that girls only 'dress up' to appeal to potential partners. Uhh, 'scuse me? Yeah, I know you can almost see my ass in these shorts if I bend over, but ever think that I'm wearing them because perhaps...I like how my legs look? Maybe I don't want a farmer's tan on my thighs? Maybe it's 100 degrees and I sweat like a pig? I don't even think about anyone when I put my clothes on, short of myself, and how rockin' I'll look.
3. I don't dress to impress anyone. I love shapes of certain clothes, and I love working with funny shapes especially when it comes to my body. I like bulky shirts with tight pants or short shorts. I like straight maxi skirts with a bustier top and a cardi. It's much more visually interesting to me to play with my body's proportions, and what certain clothing cuts do to them.
(Did you know there's a character limit to these things? I didn't, until I tried to post my comment. Microsoft Word insists I'm below 4,096 characters but Blogger's being a butt, and I'm gonna have to separate my two comments. I am SO sorry that I am apparenly a ramblebug.)
4. If I saw someone who dressed like I do, I know I would approach them, but then, how do I know what kind of person they're like? Going off of appearances is a standard introduction, but it's not always going to assure you two are compatible personalities...but I think I'm bringing psychology in out of nowhere.
Delete5. a) I have a group of bloggers that I draw inspiration from sometimes (and good shopping deals) yet a few of them wear things I never would. It gives me a lot of insight, and helps me see potential in pieces I would never think were to my liking. b) Only in situations like when a girl's wearing uggs, leggings a size too small as pants, and an Ed Hardy shirt. That's just full of bad decisions right there. Otherwise, no! Even if I see a girl in an outfit that makes me grind my teeth, I judge people's personalities on other things, usually after holding a conversation with them. Best way to gauge a person!
6. I am ALWAYS excited to share my outfits with readers, fellow bloggers and stylists! But I really can't say that I dress to impress anyone. If that were the case, I would probably look a little more scene and have more blog followers. Really, I dress solely for myself. I feel all squicky when I think about bloggers who dress up just to appeal to other people (more followers, potential sponsors) and the day I go out to buy something with the aim of 'I need to have this for my blog' I am going to just stop blogging. I dress up to feel confident and good about myself, to represent some facet of myself, and to stand as part of certain sub-cultures in fashion that I feel any connection to (usually nostalgic) and that just over-all inspires me. I blog about my outfits because I never used to have anyone in my life so interested in fashion, and making acquaintances with bloggers and getting to interact makes me feel so excited to bring what I've got to the table, as it were. If I only had five followers, I'd still be blogging anyway. I don't feel that fashion is meant to be used to impress other people. It's an art form, it's a culture, and it's part of life.
I'm liking the top&kimono. Your outfits are so different, in a good way of course (:
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I'm gonna try not to write a novel length comment here. In a nutshell: I dress how I want regardless of what's in style, flattering, attractive to opposite/same sex. Some things I wear may be trendy, in style, or way out of style, I don't care in the least. When I used to work in retail I was always the one who would be wearing what everyone else would never buy and thought was odd, but I was admired for being able to pull it off. In the blogosphere, though, I'm pretty tame. I actually wish I could be more outlandish in my style.
ReplyDeleteYes, people with similar taste could form new friendships, but people with complete opposite styles can be friends as well.
I definitely am inspired by others' style- regardless of a specifi aesthetic- I love your style, Madeline's, etc, But I also read some blogs that are "classy" or more sophisticated, then try to find an interesting way of incorporating chic pieces in my wardrobe that suits my particular style. And yes, I totally form opinions based on style, and I find it hard to believe that anyone doesn't. That being said, that doesn't always mean it's a valid opinion.
Being a fashion blogger, yes of course I want to impress and have people inspired by me. But I don't buy something JUST to wear on my blog, but I do get excited to share it with my readers, if that makes sense.
And I'm married, so I could give a crap about other guys' opinions on my style. Hell, I don't care about my husband's either, haha. But he likes it :)
Beneath the Glass
First off, kudos for being hott, well-dressed, intelligent AND thought-provoking. ;)
ReplyDeleteI don't think of men or women when I dress. I dress to an aesthetic. I dress for the way the weather strikes me most of the time. Not just temperature, sunniness, humidity. But the kinds of feelings that those conditions conjure up. Secondly I dress for a mood. Bright, moody, etc. After that comes the random inspirations. Usually from editorials, songs, art, style idols.
But more often than not I wake up in what I was wearing (because I usually fall asleep in clothes) and boom. That's the outfit of the day that is limited to errands and normal daily grind.